Tara's Toyland Home Daycare

Where Learning is Fun and Friendships Flourish


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Posted by tarastoyland on April 7, 2015 at 3:55 PM Comments comments (0)

I am on a home daycare bulletin board and someone asked why child care workers insist on saying that the kids are "friends" even if they aren't.  Some said that we were forcing them to be friends with kids they didn't want to be friends with.  Or that we had no right to say who was or who was not their friend.   I thought this was a very interesting perspective and had never even considered NOT calling them friends.  My feeling on this is that these are their first friendships.  Our job is to teach them to be a friend to everyone and to have them get along with everyone.  At this age friendship is very much in the moment anyway and as long as someone is nice then they are a friend.

 I'd rather assume that all the kids were friends and feel that every one of us would be better off if we had that assumption.  So, here at Tara's Toyland, we are friends!

Inside of Me Theme Unit

Posted by tarastoyland on April 7, 2015 at 3:05 PM Comments comments (0)

We had a super time learning about the things inside of our body like blood, muscles, bones, tendons and organs.  There were lots of science experiments during this unit.  

Here are two kids exploring blood, well, not real blood, but a model of blood.  The red water beads represent the red blood cells that carry oxygen to our body parts.  The white ping pong balls represent the white blood cells that attack germs.  The pieces of red craft foam are the platelets in our blood - they help form scabs and clots.  Last the red liquid is like the plasma which is what helps our blood slip and slide through our body.  I explained that this container would be like one drop of blood enlarged a whole bunch.

To learn about how digestion happens we used a peanut butter sandwich.  First we cut it with scissors, this like your teeth cutting into the food to chop it up in little bits.

After it was cut up we added some milk, because we have milk with our sandwich, and water to be our spit.  The fancy word for spit is saliva.  Then we used a masher to mash up the whole thing like our molars would do.

When it was all mashed up it was poured into a baggie, just like going down our esphogus into our stomach.  Then we added a can of soda pop to show how the stomach acids work on the contents of our stomach.

The last step is our intestines - the liquid coming out the sides is the nutrients our body uses, the rest that is in the stocking is the waste parts - they come out when we use the bathroom.  This was such a wonderful way to learn about how the food travels through our body - the kids really enjoyed all the unit, and unfortunately I forgot to take pictures on some days!

When the provider is sick

Posted by tarastoyland on April 2, 2015 at 10:45 AM Comments comments (0)

It's spring break week and I have been meaning to get so much done. I started out really great, well, kinda.  I had set up for a cleaning lady to come in and do some cleaning.  This was a first for me, never have had someone else do my cleaning and I am so glad I did.  She got tons done.  But only upstairs.  I ran a ton of errands and did straigtening and laundry that day.  But I was not at 100%.  I have a super bad cough that started last Thursday.

On Tuesday I went to the doctor and got some heavy duty cough syrup and an inhaler for the bronchitis.  I managed to get the stairs vacuumed and wash the daycare room floor.  It's THURSDAY already and that is about all that has been done.  I had such plans.  But my body is telling me to just rest.

When I was at the doctor she asked what happens when the daycare provider is sick.  I told her that luckily this week I was already scheduled off. 

But what does happen if I'm not scheduled off when I am sick?  Well, sometimes I have to close - when you are not able to leave the bathroom you can't really take care of little kids after all.  I had to close last year cause I sprained both my ankles really bad and had to have heavy duty pain killers to make it through those first few days.  And I closed for kidney stone surgery.   This school year though I have not closed once.  And I would not have closed for this illness either.

As a daycare provider out of my home I have a bit of an advantage - I can be lazy and have a TV day if I need, or just supervise the kids as they play if the group is a more mellow group.  During nap time if everyone sleeps I can rest on the couch.  I have my tea ready to make right here, and lots of water.  I don't take heavy duty cough syrup if kids are in attendance though because I do need to be alert.  As a general rule home daycare providers try not to close if at all possible because we know it's a hardship on a lot of different families.

I know of some providers who only took a weekend off after giving birth.  Others I know feel guilty over having to close even though they are having a major health crisis and they should go to the ER.  And I know of others who do end up closing and the daycare parents complain to them about it.  I, luckily, have not had that happen in a real long time.  

Picky Eater Plan

Posted by tarastoyland on March 28, 2015 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

There is a great book by William G Wilkoff, MD called Coping with a Picky Eater that every parent or provider of kids should read and have a copy of. http://www.amazon.com/Coping-Picky-Eater-Perplexed-Parent/dp/B000C4SUO2/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1207157772&sr=8-1



This book has what I call the Picky Eater Plan. I have used this plan with kids that literally threw up at the sight of food and within 2 weeks they were eating normal amounts of everything and trying every food.



First you need to get everyone who deals with the child on board. If you are a provider it's ok to make this the rule at your house and not have the parents follow through but you wont' see as good results as what I described up above.



The plan is to limit the quantities of food you give the kid. When I first start with a child I give them literally ONE bite worth of each food I am serving. The book suggests that every time you feed the kids (breakfast, morning snack, lunch, afternoon snack, dinner) you give all 4 food groups. So, for lunch today I would have given the child one tiny piece of strawberry, one spoonful of applesauce, 3 macaroni noodles with cheese on them, and 2 oz of milk. Only after they ate ALL of what was on their plate would you give them anything else. They can have the same amounts for seconds. If they only want more mac and cheese, they only get 3 noodles then they would have to have more of all the other foods in order to get more than that. If they don't eat, fine. If they don't finish, fine. Don't make a big deal out of it, just make them stay at the table until everyone else is done eating. They don't get more food until they are sat at the next meal and they only get what you serve. When I first do this with a child I don't serve sweets at all. So no animal crackers for snack but rather a carrot for snack. Or one of each of those. I don't make it easy for them to gorge on bad foods in other words. Now if they had a meal where they ate great then I might make the snack be a yummy one cause I know they filled up on good foods.



Even at snacks you have to limit quantities of the good stuff or else they will hold out for snack and just eat those snacky foods. I never give a picky eater the reward of a yummy snack unless they had that great lunch prior to it.



It really is that easy.



ps - proper eating schedule for under 5 yrs old - times are just for demonstration purposes to give amount of time between things 7 eat breakfast 8:30 snack 11 lunch, followed by nap 3 snack 5:30 dinner, no further food for the day unless under 2 yrs old, then a bedtime snack is ok

5 S's and EASY - under 12 mos old sleep help

Posted by tarastoyland on March 27, 2015 at 9:30 AM Comments comments (0)

Here's my reccomendation for sound sleep in under a year old:

using the Baby Whisperer's EASY method for a schedule, and the Happiest Baby on the Block 5 s's method. Those two combined will make cio not be a needed thing (at that age)


EASY - when the baby wakes up it Eats. After you feed it, then it has Activity - bouncy seat, tummy time, sitting up and playing with toys, swing, exersaucer, etc. When the baby gets fussy check the B's - boredom, butt or burp. If it's none of those then off to Sleep. Don't wait for the baby to do more than get the tiniest bit fussy, then see what is causing the fusses - if it's just that they needed their diaper change do that, but if it's not the activity is boring, the butt is dirty or they have to burp, then put them down. This may happen after as short as 45 minutes, don't freak, it really means they are tired.


Now, to get them to sleep use the 5 s's. Swaddle the baby, hold the baby on their side and sway as they suck on something (paci, your knuckle or their finger/thumb) and make a shush noise. This will calm your baby. When the baby is calm, but not asleep yet, keeping them swaddled lay them in the bed. I like to pat them instead of sway after a minute or two cause you can still pat after they are put down but you can't sway, so pat the baby and continue patting gradually decreasing it as you put them in the bed. Also continue the shushing as you put them down, again gradually getting quieter.


If you do these two you will find a well rested, easily managed baby in no time.

My true calling

Posted by tarastoyland on March 26, 2015 at 8:00 PM Comments comments (0)

December 1, 2011 originally published


This week has been a GREAT week with the daycare kids. On Wednesday I listened to the 16 month old have deep belly laughs as the 4 year olds danced for him. He tried to imitate their moves and soon we were all just laughing. The day was a perfect mix of group and individual activity. The kids improved their fine motor skills and creativity with an art project. It was too cold to go outside but we worked up a sweat using the parachute. We read stories together. Some kids built a huge wooden block castle while others played with the soft barn toy. There were the normal arguments, and a few bumps and falls, but the day sailed along. Everyone gobbled up lunch, which contained a perfect combination of grain, fruits, veggies, milk and protein. Then after a smooth transition of potty and books the kids were soon tucked in bed for nap time. And in no time at all all seven of them were in dream land.



It's days and weeks like this that make me happy in my career choice. There are the total opposite kinds of weeks sometimes. Kids can have their off times, and in this job it sometimes happens that every kid (and myself) have a crabby day and nothing goes right. But then there are days like today where we match lids to boxes then sort them into "cubes" and "cylinders" before we count and compare which group has the most. These days should be caught on film and documented, then wrapped in a bow so that when those crabby days happen we can pop in a DVD of a good day and get back on track.

Kids sleep deprived

Posted by tarastoyland on March 25, 2015 at 9:25 AM Comments comments (0)

February 14, 2012


Study: Kids have been sleep-deprived for more than 100 years


Karen Kaplan, Los Angeles Times


LOS ANGELES -- Worried that your children aren't getting enough sleep? You're not alone. As one prominent educational psychologist put it, "Physicians and writers on school hygiene agree that children are likely to receive less sleep than is needful to them."



That assessment was offered way back in 1913, and it came from Lewis Terman, who went on to develop the Stanford-Binet IQ test. Terman's concern for sleep-deprived kids tapped into a longstanding source of parental angst.



It turns out that experts have been fretting about tired children since at least 1897. According to an article published online Monday by the journal Pediatrics, 32 sets of sleep guidelines for kids -- containing 360 distinct recommendations for children of specific ages -- were published between 1897 and 2009. During that time, the amount of recommended sleep fell by an average of 0.71 minutes per year. That added up to about 70 fewer minutes of suggested nightly sleep over the course of the 20th century.



And how well did parents of yore live up to those recommendations? Not very well, according to the Pediatrics article. Of the 360 sleep recommendations made over the years, Australian researchers found data that corresponded to 173 of them. In 83 percent of the cases, children were falling short of the ideal -- and doing so by an average of 37 minutes. Overall, the actual amount of nightly sleep for children fell by an average of 0.73 minutes per year.



Among all the expert recommendations put forth, the researchers could find only one case for which the expert guidelines were rooted in medical evidence of a need for a particular amount of sleep. That was a 1926 study that measured the actual sleep of 500 kids between the ages of 6 and 15 who were deemed "healthy." Other than that, it seems that experts simply looked at the amount of sleep children around them were getting and figured that they really needed a little bit more, the authors wrote.



And what's to blame for all this pediatric sleep deprivation? Why, new technology and the increasingly rigorous demands of modern life, of course. "The hurry and excitement of modern life is quite correctly held to be responsible for much of the insomnia of which we hear," according to an editorial published in the British Medical Journal way back in 1894.



As the Australian researchers explain, "In the early 1900s, artificial lighting, radio, reading and the cinema were considered to be the causes of delayed bedtimes. By the late 1990s, video games, television viewing, the Internet and mobile telephones were largely held responsible for such delays."



(c)2012 the Los Angeles Times

Sometimes it's NOT a disorder disorder

Posted by tarastoyland on March 24, 2015 at 9:10 AM Comments comments (0)

October 13, 2012 at 10:12am


DISCLAIMER - I am not going to respond to comments on this. You the reader can decide if I am off base and have never dealt with what you are dealing with, or spot on. I will not argue my point any further then what is stated below. You can leave comments if you want, you can unfriend me if you must. But I do hope you read with an open mind and consider that perhaps I may be right.





I follow a few parenting boards and a recent one had a question about a preschooler not liking new clothes or having to go from summer short sleeves to winter long ones or vice versa. The mom is investigating therapists cause of the tantrums such things ensue.



Other questions mention a child lining up the toys as a sign the child is autistic. Or that they don't interact with strangers, or that they don't talk yet. Sometimes it's a severe tantrum tendency that drives a diagnosis of some disorder. Don't eat certain foods? Must be a sensory disorder.



It's so hard to read these and not shout "they are just being a kid, stop freaking out and let it go. Tell them to stop it, give them enough sleep and make sure they aren't having eye/ear/sickness issues, then fix those. If nothing is physically wrong then buck down and tell the kid to get over it."


Cause if you shout that out "you don't understand" or "you don't see what we see, he/she was acting really good that day" or "I know my child, and I know this is not normal." If you even mention those thoughts out loud you are no longer a friend. Or if they are a client they will go somewhere else instead of face the facts. In today's world you can not have a child who's behavior is just bad behavior, it is a disorder now.



Sorry, in almost every case I have seen that there is not a disorder. There is something going on but it is not autism or sensory processing disorder or OCD or ADHD even. In almost all of these "cases" I have noticed there are other reasons. The lining up objects is a common thing in almost all kids. I have so many pictures of it by just plain ole' kids. The focusing on one subject to the point of obsession. Yep, again, a plain ole' kid thing. Allowing that obsession to become the ruling factor of their lives is determined by the parent's reaction to that obsession. If your kid likes dinosaurs, or sea life, or outer space, or insects, or whatever, and you overload them with everything related to that anytime you see it, then yes, their obsession will become out of proportion to normal kids' obsessions. That does not make them have OCD or Autism or any other disorder.



Some kids who were diagnoses as autistic really have hearing or speech issues. If you can't hear and you are a toddler you are going to appear to not interact to not pay attention to the world, to be "autistic". And miracles of miracles, after their ears are cleaned out they get so much better. Must be the therapy they also started. How dare I say this? Well, my older daughter was truly advanced speech wise. She said, "will you please play outside with me, Gareth" clear as day to her cousin at 13 months old. By 18 months she had a 400 word vocabulary. I found my list and it's amazing what she said. What makes it even more amazing is that by 24 months old she had lost all but 5 words. Must have been autistic - she was advanced, then lost skills! Nope. She was deaf from ear wax compaction in both ears. 100% deaf. She had her ears cleaned out and slowly regained words. It wasn't until she was 3 1/2 that she was truly up to age level cause she had lost so much in those 6 months. It killed me to see postings of kids singing songs or saying advanced things, cause she had done that at 17 months but at almost 3 she couldn't anymore. She ended up with a speech issue from it that was hard to fix, she couldn't say r controlled vowels to save her life and her l's were messed up as well. By fourth grade she was finally speaking clearly again. I have seen similar stories, even from those with "autistic" kids. They start speech therapy, and have that ear wax removed, all in the same week. Yet their frame of mind already shouts "it's autism" so they credit the therapy, not the cleaned out ears, for the child saying the first words ever. Try stuffing your ears with cotton for a weekend and see how different you start acting. Did you just become autistic?



Other kids with a disorder are really sleep deprived. If they were grown ups in the military they would be put on medical leave they are so overtired. If you are overtired, at any age, then you get crabby (extreme tantrums and meltdowns may occur), you can't think as well (you may space out randomly, or perhaps not be able to figure out simple puzzles, sometimes you can forget the simplest of facts), you do not interact as well with your environment or other people. Sleep deprivation in children makes them unable to concentrate and hyper. Sound like ADHD to you? Does to me. If your grade schooler is getting less then 11 hours of sleep a night, they are not getting enough sleep. An overtired child does not fall asleep, instead they get hyper. If your kid has hit the slap happy stage, you have missed the window of sleep and are at the overtired stage. Consistently being overtired, nights and nights of being hours short of sleep, and the child becomes permanently in the hyper, unfocused state of being. Too bad the people that study behavior don't actually take care of kids, cause I would really like to see a study about average number of hours of sleep as compared to disorders.



One boy who I had in daycare was very inconsistent. Some days he was spot on, could do a puzzle, answer what a cow said and really knew almost everything a boy his age should know. But then other days not so much. In fact other days he was literally two years behind on skills. After investigating I found out that it was directly tied to amount of sleep. When he spent a weekend missing naps and going to bed late he paid for it by lack of skills later. At age 4 he should have been getting 13 to 14 hours of sleep in a day. He was getting more like 9 some days. Can you function on 5 hours less sleep after a few days? I see this over and over, the child starts sleeping more and their skills improve. Of course the "autistic" also have "insomnia". Perhaps the Insomnic have Austism is more like it. All kids at one point fight sleep, perhaps those that are getting less then what used to be recommended 14 years ago would benefit from getting the right amount and be "spot on" every day. Weeks, months, years of sleep deprivation have been proven in scientific studies to lower IQ, lower physical ability and lower memory skills. If your ten month old should have been getting 16 - 18 hours of sleep in a day, and they are only getting 14, or even less, they will not be able to do as well as the child who gets the right amount of sleep. I know, I know, they don't nap, they can't sleep at night, you've tried everything. I'm sure that I'll have comments saying that. And I don't believe it. Cause every kid that has come to my daycare and been forced to nap every day, (yes, forced, cause they are in a very dark room with music playing at the same time every day no matter what), happily takes naps until the day they start school in the afternoons. Those that don't take naps at home, do here. The only kids that don't nap here get enough night time sleep that they are ok. That means a minimum of 13 hours at night. One of my parents doesn't do a morning nap for their 16 month old, but it turns out the child sleeps almost 14 hours every night, no matter what, so they do not need a morning nap. But almost always lack of sleep is a problem that causes other problems. Solve the sleep and a host of other issues just disappear. Oh, wait, I'm sorry, a host of other issues are fixed.



If you are allowed to do whatever you want when ever you want, then when rules are required you won't know to follow them. If at home meals are where ever the toddler wants then they won't understand ias a five year old that the social norms in a restaurant are different and they will not act properly. If as a toddler you were allowed to hit your parent then you will not learn that hitting isn't allowed no matter how much you are told when you hit another child, cause after all you can hit your mommy. If your toddler is only told in a meek voice to not run into the street, then they will keep running into the street. All kids test rules and boundaries, some parents fail that test and that kid will not see any boundaries after a certain age. What started out as a kid being a kid, has now become a "disorder".



Other "autistic" kids, or those needing occupational, developmental, or whateveral therapies, really just need to be forced to do things and not be allowed to be the boss. Or be exposed to the information. If no one has told you a cow says moo, then you do not know that fact. Or perhaps if they told you and you were too overtired to process the information, or your ears were clogged with fluid and you really didn't hear that information. If your parent has always dressed you then at age 4 you will not have the skill that the majority of kids do have, and you will be "behind". Go to school like that and wow, you may have a disorder. If your parents never required you to eat what they eat, and went with your whims, then you may have eating issues. Every kid will focus on certain foods if you let them. It's up to the grown up to determine if that becomes a sensory disorder by allowing it, or just a phase by not allowing it. This means when your kid will only eat hot dogs, you stop serving hot dogs. Amazingly that kid will eat other things pretty quickly. I have "cured" so many sensory disorders at my daycare lunch table, I'm "gifted" like that.



I could go on, but by now the ones who have kids with disorders are beyond pissed at me and have responded with all those things I mentioned above. Some of them are daycare providers and have seen many kids. To convince them to consider other reasons for the disorder is an uphill battle that I can not win. So most of the time I just smile and say I'm sorry they are dealing with it. I ignore the postings about how that type of child sees the world. I bite my tongue.



To that question about the clothing I gave the following answer, "My now 10 yr old was really bad as a preschooler about clothing, and my 13 yr old at that age was not so bad but still had a few issues here and there. Almost all the daycare kids are to some degree have the change of season clothes issues.



I am irritated that the modern way of handling this is to assume a disorder of some sort. How bout a kid just not liking how something feels? Or being a kid and exerting some independence? Or being so sleep deprived from years of not getting the right amount of sleep that they can not possibly function. Honestly, just tell the kid, tough, or let them deal with the consequences and let it go. If the child goes to a school enlist the teacher for help - I have had to email my younger daughter's teacher and say, "can you tell the class that coats, hats and mittens are now required every day?". And guess what - she gets over it and each year it's a bit less. Now that she is older I know to make her try on every clothing before we buy it, I know she doesn't like collars around her neck or lace anywhere it touches the skin. But this does not make her having sensory disorder. It just means she is normal. Do YOU like every clothing you have ever tried on??



Let it go. Stop concentrating on it. It's really not that big of a deal."



And that is what I would love to say to some others but can't cause they know me personally.



So, if you are my friend with a truly "special" kid, of course I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about someone else. Because your kid is of course really having that disorder.

************  when I originally published this one comment was that I do not have an MD, this was my response to that

when I was a lead teacher at a daycare in my mid 20s I was insulted when the director said to me that I would never be a good daycare provider until I had kids. Then I had kids and realized she was right. Being a mom is ten thousand times harder and more intense then working a 9 hour day with the kids. There are so many aspects of the job that I didn't see before in the light that I do now.


I feel that doctors have the same issue. Seeing a child for 15 minutes does not make them an expert. Until they have lived a week in the shoes of a parent of each age of child they can not be a truly good guide to parents. I think it would be a great idea for all pediatricians to spend a week with a family who has a newborn, then a week with a 2 yr old's family, then a preschoolers. They would get such a more thorough idea of what reality is.


I have more experience with more children from more families then lots of people, and lots more then most doctors. I have seen overtired kids vs rested kids. I have seen kids "cured"."

The value of Mean Based Standardized testing in Early Child Education

Posted by tarastoyland on March 23, 2015 at 9:05 AM Comments comments (0)

originally written in December 2012

Recently on a forum a mother asked how to improve her child's fine motor skills. All sorts of good (and a few not so good) suggestions were given. The mother was saying the child could do everything that we suggested. This didn't seem right. From what she reported as the teacher's comments I thought perhaps the mom had blinders on. I offered to evaluate the child to see where he really was skill wise and give the mom some sense of what to do. *note to self, stop being so spontaneously generous*



Last night I had the child over to my house. He and I spent about an hour going over what he knew. I started with the test for fine motor since that is what the teacher said he needed to work on. I like using the LAP-3 test. It's great at telling you exactly what age, to the month, a child should be able to do something. For instance by 24 months they should be able to put one inch blocks into a jar with a 1 1/2 inch opening. Standardized. FACT, not opinion.



In talking with the mother I found out that this child missed kindergarten cut off date by a few weeks. The brick and mortar chain preschool he went to said that he was "way behind" and should not go to kindergarten next year but rather have another year of preschool. (which would mean in the first month of his kindergarten year he would turn seven!) Then I found out the worse part of the story. Last year, the boy who had just turned FOUR was in the two year old room. This is TWO years below his age level. Due to his birthdate he should have been in the older three year old room. I explained to the mom how horrible this was, If you took a two year old and put them in the infant room would you expect them to be taught age appropriate things? Would you expect that two year old to start drinking out of a normal cup when he was the only one in the room not on a bottle? That is what that school did to this kid. Because I do home daycare and have multiple ages every day I separate my daycare room so that there is a big kid area where the older kids can do age appropriate things without worry. There's nothing worse then building a nice big block tower only to have a two year old that doesn't understand come over and knock it down. But in a room of only two year olds you would not have the protection of a safe building zone. So how could you learn to build towers from blocks like a four year old should?



It gets worse. They had a conference and told the mom that the child was basically dumb. Oh, they didn't use those words but they may as well have. She was told he needed INTENSIVE help. I expected this child to not even be able to hold the pencil the right way from what I had already read honestly. Before she arrived at my house I was worried that I was going to have to break it to the mom that her child was not the sharpest tack in the box.



I started on fine motor. After a bit I had to tell the mom to go to the other room, she didn't understand there was a reason I was explaining what to do the way I was. He soared through the skills. Soon we were at 36 months and he was not blinking an eye at what I asked him to do. In no time we were at 48 months. Yes he is a young five which would put him at just over 60 months, but he has another year before kindergarten so schooling wise he is at about 51 months as the target. I told his mom he was not behind long before I stopped the testing at 65 months. This kid was not behind at all in fine motor.



Maybe the teacher didn't identify the skill set properly. So I told the mom I would go over some other things in the test to make sure he wasn't behind in any other area. In every test he was at least 50 months old skill set, and in all but three things he was above 60 month skill set.



He was behind in writing his name. CHRONICLE AGE wise. School age wise he was exactly on target for this time in the school year. His only skill that he was behind at all was writing letters. I am sure that is because he was in the wrong class setting last year. The other skill he needed to work on was putting on his shirt and socks. This obviously is not a skill that kindergarten teachers care about. He can zip his coat even. The mom left here with concrete suggestions to improve those skills - 1.) give the kid 20 minutes before bedtime, hand him his clothes and tell him to put them on, he'll figure it out, 2) buy the Kumon handwriting books for upper and lower case, no other brand approaches the METHODOLOGY of handwriting like they do, and do a few pages a night, 3) buy Leap Frog Letter Factory DVD and have him watch it 3 times a night for 2 weeks straight to learn all letter sounds and lastly 4) practice writing his name one time each night with the laminated sheet I sent home. (see method below)



That is all this boy needs. The teacher he had now, and it turns out the director also, did not use an accurate test to decide where this boy was. Maybe the kid didn't have his glasses yet, or was sick on the day of the testing, perhaps the day of testing that they did he was being difficult, or shy. Maybe the school isn't to blame for the test, I will admit that. But they should have seen once he was there for any length of time that he was in the wrong class and moved him back to the proper age group. If the test failed the child the teachers should have stepped up. The teachers failed him too. I was mad that this school was hurting children in such a way. I was sad that this bright, awesome little boy was almost subjected to another year of people thinking he was dumb.



Last night the test showed his skill levels. Not Miss Nora, not my opinion, not what I had seen from knowing other kids in the 4K age level. A test that any teacher in any state can use and we could compare kids objectively was given and that test showed that this boy would have done just fine in kindergarten THIS year if he had gone.



My final recommendation to the mom was to find him a new school cause the one he has now sucks.

Bucket list for a child under 24 months old

Posted by tarastoyland on March 22, 2015 at 9:20 AM Comments comments (0)

originally written April 2012

Below is my bucket list for a child under 24 months old. This was written out to the parents of Avery who had a terminal genetic disease and didn't  live to her second birthday. http://www.facebook.com/AverysBucketList They were asking for a bucket list of things for her to do while she is still alive. Lots of the things on the list were not aimed to an infant and toddler. Yes we may like to go white water rafting some day, but not when you are under 2 yrs old. So, I created a list for her that is more realistic and that SHE will enjoy.



*pet a cat, dog, horse, goat, hamster, bird, rabbit and as many other animals as you can

*splash in a puddle, a pond, a stream and a lake

*play in the rain, feel a nice warm rain on your face

*listen to the wind as you lay under a tree and watch the leaves

*paint with your hands and feet

*watch a sun rise in the morning, the sun set at night and the moon rise (a full moon)

*see the stars from somewhere there are no lights so you really SEE them

*collect worms

*watch a butterfly flutter, see if one can land on your hand

*pet a stingray, and a dolphin

*catch snowflakes on your tongue, make snow angels

*play in a ball pit

*color with a crayon, a marker, a pen, and a pencil

*eat chocolate, drink hot chocolate and eat as many foods as you can in that time period. ((If I knew I only had a few years to live I would try to not eat the same food twice. May not be possible for her though))

*listen to as many kinds of music as you can, classical, rock, raggea, jazz, African, etc.

*hear each instrument as an individual sound, then all together as a symphony

I work with children under 2 yrs old a lot, and as many of the 5 senses as you can stimulate the better experience they will have. So my list is geared towards what I wish every child under 2 gets to do.